Woman Asks Husband of 30 Years for Divorce Even Though He'd Done Nothing

My husband was shocked and hurt when I asked for a divorce after thirty years of marriage. He felt he had always been a good husband. But I had a reason he didnt even guessed about.

Isnt it funny how peoples perceptions of the very same event can be so different? Even something like a marriage. My husband Zack thought he was a happily married man, I knew I was unhappy.

Our two realities finally clashed when I asked him for a divorce on our thirtieth wedding anniversary, two weeks after our third and youngest child left home.

Zack thought he had a perfect life | Source: Shutterstock.com

He stood there staring at me in absolute shock. “What?” he asked. “Whos getting a divorce?”

“You,” I told him. “Or rather, I am.”

Zack sat down heavily, still staring. “Youre divorcing me?”

“Yes,” I repeated. “Im divorcing you.”

Zack couldnt believe it when I asked him for a divorce | Source: Unsplash

“But why?” he cried, and I was surprised to see tears in his eyes. “I love you, Kelly, I always have, and I never cheated on you, not ever!”

“Thats true,” I said. “You never cheated and you never drank or gambled.”

One of the most important things in a relationship is to LISTEN to what the other person is really saying.

“But…Then why?” he asked angrily. “I did NOTHING and youre divorcing me? Are you having an affair?”

“NO!” I cried. “Im not! Do you want to know why Im leaving you, Zack? Ill tell you…” I walked right up to him and looked him in the eyes.

I explained why I was leaving but he didnt understand | Source: Pixabay

“Im leaving you because you did NOTHING! When the children came and I was holding a full-time job and coming home to do the housework alone, you did NOTHING.

“When I was so ill I could barely get out of bed, you did NOTHING; when my father died and I was devastated by grief, you did NOTHING; when I went through menopause and had depression, you did NOTHING.

“When I was so sad that our two oldest children left home, you did NOTHING. You never brought me a flower just to say you loved me, you never stood up for me when your mother was so mean to me.

“That time I twisted my ankle and I could barely walk, I had to get out of bed at 6:00 am and fix breakfast — and you lay there snoring and did NOTHING. Nothing seems to be what you do best!”

I reminded him of all the times I needed help and he turned away | Source: Unsplash

“You never told me!” Zack cried with an injured look on his face.

“I told you every time I asked for your help,” I said. “Every time I snuggled up for a kiss and you were more interested in what was on TV. I told you when I begged for your love and attention, for romance.

“I told you five years ago when I asked you to go to couples therapy with me and you refused because there was NOTHING wrong and you were happy.”

“We can go now,” Zack said hopefully. “Set up the appointment and Ill come!”

Zack was always more interested in what was on TV | Source: Pexels

“Of course, now that you see me determined to leave,” I commented. “But you dont actually care enough to go look for a therapist and set up the appointment yourself.”

“Please, Kelly,” Zack begged. “Please give me a chance to make you happy!”

I stared at him and a deep sadness welled up in my heart. I shook my head. “At any time in the last thirty years, I would have given anything to hear you say those words.

“Now I look at you and all I feel is sadness — and pity. Youve never bothered to make me happy before Zack, and honestly, Im not wasting one more day of my life on you.”

I threw out the dowdy old wardrobe that Id bought to please Zack | Source: Pexels

I moved out the next day and found myself a pretty little apartment in Venice Beach and started a new life. I sold my car and started cycling everywhere even to work.

My children were shocked, especially my oldest daughter Amy who told me her father was devastated and seeing a therapist for depression. I was sorry for him, but my own happiness was finally my priority.

I took up dancing, made new friends, threw out the dowdy old wardrobe that Id bought to please Zack, and changed my hair. My children were stunned and said I looked twenty years younger.

I felt younger and pretty, and energetic, and hopeful. A year later, I met Sam, a sweet, considerate man who spoils me, lavishes care and attention on me, and wants to marry me.

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I met a wonderful new man | Source: Unsplash

I guess Im still a bit nervous about taking the big step again, but weve set a date for the summer. I couldnt have fallen for a nicer man, and I am finally learning what real love is all about.

As for Zack, I hear he is now dating a much younger woman who orders him around like a slave, has him hopping to her every whim, and spends his hard-earned money like water. I guess we all get what we deserve!

What can we learn from this story?

What we do is just as important as what we dont do. Zack didnt cheat, but he also didnt offer Kelly the love and support she needed.One of the most important things in a relationship is to LISTEN to what the other person is really saying and to consider their needs and wishes as important as your own — something Zack didnt do until it was too late.

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